You have every right to enjoy yourself in your apartment; however, so does your roommate. 生活方式的不同会引起冲突. 在偶然的基础上有趣或可以忍受的特征和特征可能不是每天都如此. 虽然所有室友关系都会在某个时候发生冲突, 确定哪些领域对你来说是最重要的,哪些是你不愿意妥协的,这一点很重要.
以下是在成为室友之前需要讨论的一些问题:
Morality
最好找一个在这些问题上和你有点相似的室友. Questions regarding overnight guests, drinking alcohol, profanity, 不同种族/国籍/宗教/性取向的人, etc., should be discussed. 差异不仅会被容忍,还会被尊重吗?
Cleanliness
一个人的不整洁是另一个人的污秽. What is your definition of clean? 清洁工作的频率和清洁程度,由谁来完成?
Roommate as a Friend
你对室友感兴趣仅仅是因为生活安排还是你想有一个社交伙伴? 不管你们相处得有多好, 有时候,双方都不想和对方在一起. 你需要能够诚实地认识和讨论这些时间.
Conflict Resolution
你们每个人是如何处理困难的情况的, disagreements, 烦恼是决定你们相处好坏的最好因素. 设想一个冲突的场景,询问双方如何应对. 问问你的潜在室友他/她是如何处理人际关系中的问题的.
Pets, Children and Visitors
对安静时间和隐私的期望是什么? 如果有的话,你的室友或你多久会带别人来家里? 上述任何一项是否会无人看管或成为另一项的责任.
Sleep Patterns and Schedules
你是夜猫子还是你的座右铭是“早睡早起”?? 关于个人安静和学习时间以及学校和工作时间表的讨论是必要的.
Cooking and Food
如果食物和/或烹饪是共享的, 你需要确定彼此的食物偏好和习惯. Vegetarian or meat eater? If it is to be separate, 你需要在食物的储存和借用以及厨房方面设定界限.
You as a Roommate
要探索的最重要的领域之一是你如何看待自己作为室友. 你真的像你自己认为的那样干净整洁吗? Be honest with yourself as to who you are, your likes and dislikes, and what you can tolerate and what you cannot.
Trust your Gut!
室友兼容性和其他相关问题
这些问题可以作为一个讨论工具,帮助你探索你的相似和不同之处,并不能保证你和你未来的室友之间匹配。. 室友之间必须能够谈论任何分歧. In any roommate living relationship, the people and situations may change, 进一步的讨论可能需要全年定期举行.
What is your major and year? How many courses will you be taking? 你在网上上课吗?你需要安静的时间上课吗? Do you work and when?
How will we split/pay the bills? What are your other financial obligations? 如果我们中的一个人不能按时付款,我们该怎么办? Do you have renter's insurance?
你有什么过敏或需要我注意的健康状况吗? What medications do you take? 如果你有紧急医疗情况,我需要做什么或者我应该联系谁?
你每天在家学习多少小时? At another location? 你需要安静还是喜欢音乐或电视作为背景噪音?
What kind of music do you like? How loud and how often will you play music? 你喜欢什么电视节目和电影?
Do you smoke cigarettes? If yes, how much? Will your guests smoke when visiting?
Do you drink alcohol? If yes, how much and how often? Do you disapprove of those who drink alcohol? Will your guests drink alcohol when visiting?
Do you approve of drugs? Do you use drugs? Will your guests use drugs when visiting?
Do you like to party? Do you like to have parties? How often and how many guests?
你介意室友有访客和过夜客人吗? 客人最多可以住多久? Do you have a significant other? Do you have pets?
你对整洁、凌乱、干净和肮脏的定义是什么? How will we split cleaning responsibilities? Do you recycle?
你们对分享或使用他人财产的政策是什么? What if items/property become damaged?
When you get angry, what do you usually do? Do you talk it out, avoid the conflict, yell?
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